Today marks 18 years with Cheri, my beloved wife and partner in the grace of life! I just wanted to share my thoughts and feelings on this important day (please indulge me!).
As I reflect on the last 18 years it is more and more striking how naïve we were about life and about marriage! We are nowhere near the same people who said “I do” in that church in Burnaby, British Columbia on July 2, 1994.
Words really fail to describe how I feel about your faithful partnership, your consistent and fierce love through these years (you are truly a warrior not to be trifled with!). As God took me through many crushings and obscure arid landscapes, you faithfully followed, knowing (with tears) that you would also be crushed. In light of your covenant commitment, my marginalization meant your marginalization. Many lesser women would have abandoned me many times over! But you have stayed by my side and I thank you.
When we first wed, marriage was mostly about fun, love and hope. It has become instead about death and rebirth, many times over. Our marriage has been defined and marked forever by the cross of Christ. Darkness and shattered dreams have forced us to cling to the cross if we would survive. We both faced a million choices along the way to either embrace the cross or the easier path of superficial relationship and by God’s grace, we have chosen the cross (for the most part). Had we chosen the easier path, the destruction of our relationship would have been sure.
We have seen other marriages come and go, and I know no one is immune to the poison of an unfaithful heart; but I have hope that after 18 years we have learned something about ourselves, about our God and his faithfulness, things we can carry into today and tomorrow (for all we have is “now”). The only reason we’re still together is Jesus. So my closing thoughts are thanks to Him and love to you. May we be blessed with another 50 years together.